Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Confession

As I'm certain is true for many of us, for most of my adult life I've painted a picture of having grown up in a tough low/middle income city housing project, as if I was once a character out of "Good Times," as if Jimmy "JJ" Walker had been playing shortstop next to me in game of punch ball in the Big Park. (Change that...Jimmy didn't look very athletic. We'd have probably put him in the sprinkler just to catch any rare balls that came off the park house roof...)

I always presented myself as someone that had succeeded despite having grown up on the wrong side of the track. I thought it made me seem more remarkable, giving people the image of someone that had scratched and clawed their way to adulthood, and who came out whole despite meager circumstances. It was a lie, and each of us lucky enough to have come through the projects in our era know it. Instead of knife fights growing up, our idea of dangerous was sneaking through "security" at Sea Gate to hang out at the "Riv." Instead of worrying about whether we'd have enough money to eat, our fear was falling off the wooden maze while playing blind man's bluff in the "little" park. Instead of drive-by shootings, we were worried about how to get our Spalding back from the two or three ladies that would incessantly sit on the benches on the cobblestones in the middle of the big park and would refuse to give our ball back if it accidentally rolled towards them, or what we'd do if the Pensy Pinkie would split in half while playing stick ball off the park house wall. What a wonderful, magical place we lived in then, when losing a game of basketball in the Cheesebox meant you were going to go for a quick swim in your cut-off shorts to cool off before you could get back on the court, where a half drawn shade in your apartment window meant that it was time to come up for dinner, and where instead of dead-beat dads, we had men like Leo Rich organizing stick ball games for us.

When my kids were growing up, I took them back to the projects to show them just how tough an upbringing their dad had gone through, when the truth was that I was brought up in the closest to paradise that I've ever known. I wanted them to appreciate all that we now have, when the truth is that my fervent hope for them is that they someday experience the true unbridled joy we shared growing up there, surrounded by hundreds of good kids, knowing even the name of the park man (Gene) who's job was to loan out checker boards to kids, where there were ALWAYS enough sparklers to go around to the kids that didn't have them on Tuesday night fireworks nights. No, none of us grew up on the "wrong side of the tracks" as I've so colorfully painted to business and social acquaintances through the years. I wouldn't trade those summer mornings on the beach, those happy nights at the "Y" playing ping pong, those days sneaking peeks at the latest "Archie" comic (before Coopey kicked us out), those road trips against the other "Y's," those times of knowing every mother playing Mah Jong, of knowing not a handful, but hundreds of other beautiful boys and girls in my age bracket, for all the summers kids now spend in Europe, for all their organized soccer leagues, their magnet schools, their Wii's, their double mocha latte's, their designer threads. Personally, I'll take a cheeseburger deluxe, a chocolate egg cream (with a side of water poured in a cone-shaped cup) at the Hubba Hubba any day of the week.

There must be a reason that so many of us are drawn back home, now so separated by miles and experiences and the passing of years. Perhaps it's that we were raised in Nirvana, but that we didn't even know it at the time.

Steve Lattman
Lattman's sister's brother
11/05/2008

8 comments:

Coney Island Houses said...

Nice post Steve. It always amazes may how our experiences are so similar.
Joey DePinto

Steve Siegel said...

It was great to read your post. This was the first time I was on this site and recognize so many familiar names. I agree with your assessment of life in the projects. I think that growing up in the projects in Coney Island provided a unique experience that I have tried to relate to my children with a sense of pride. I believe the experience built character and had a tremendous influence on who I am today (mostly good I hope). I have fond memories of you and your family and remember how unstoppable your hook layup was. With warm regards, Steve Siegel of buiding 1 apt 7E/9C.

Steve Blackburn said...

Steve,

Your memories which are so eloquently stated are definately shared by me and probably so many other people realise what a true paradise we had back then. I wouldn't trade where and how I grew up in the Coney Island Projects for all the money in the world. Thanks for the memories and just wanted to add I also remember Leo organizing stickball, as well as wiffleball in the cheesebox, and I loved playing with teams composed of kids from young to old mixed with dads. We played stickball on a bounce in the big park and I think over the 4th floor in building 4 was a home run?
your friend....

Steve Blackburn ( COCOMO)..

Doug(ie) Monas (Ira's brother) said...

Just a quick note from the next age group. This was an absolute wonderful post that captured so much of our RICH (not Leo) childhoods. The memories brought a wide grin that is hard to wipe off. To this day, I still have very strong contacts to many of my Coney cohorts. Thanks for the site.

Doug(ie) Monas (Ira's brother)

Jeffrey Bernstein said...

Steve:
It's been how many years since I've seen you, my former babysitter? Egads! Too bad I was a bit younger than most of you "athletes" of that time, 'cause as I got older I would've competed with the best of you. Memories. Ahh....... It was a great time of life. I still go back to Cyclones games and reminisce, occasionally. So, who's gonna organize the reunion?

ira wiener said...

Steve,
It was great speaking to u online
and i agree fully with your analysis
of growing up in coney. I still work
in brooklyn and took a trip down to the projects recently. I parked my car and got out to look around. Everything seemed much smaller. lol
I would not have traded anything in this world for the experience of growing up where we did.There were always kids to hang with and the basketball games were great. I miss
alot of the people and if anyone wants to give me a shout please do.

Ira Wiener
Mrrx007@aol.com

Anonymous said...

What a rich and well-written memoir. It touched my heart.

Ira said...

Lots of memories people.Lots!!!